The Ex-Factor

One of my all-time favorite show is Seinfeld, and I really admire the fact that Jerry and Elaine can be friends after they dated.  I tried to put this to the test after my first breakup in high school, and that did not work since he still wanted to get back together with me.  Needless to day, I had to cut that off.  There are two views on this, one side stated that we should be friend with our exes, while the other side disagreed.  I think there should be a middle ground.

I have friends who are still friends with their exes, and they seem to enjoy a mutual friendship.  I do think it takes a strong person to be able to still be friend with their exes and can handle seeing their exes moved on to another relationship.

On the other hand, I have friends who cannot be friends with their exes.  They just think that what is the point of being friend with the exes when there is temptation to get back together.  Furthermore, they cannot handle seeing their exes' new lovers.

Personally, I can be friends with my exes, but it depends on the person.  I am friend with one of my exes because we respect each other boundaries.  However, there are other exes I would not want to be friends with if they are unhealthy for me.  I just choose to take care of me, and not let anyone bring me down.

In conclusion, from my perspective I believe that we can be friend with our certain exes, but just not all of them.  I think just because two people did not work out as couple it does not mean that you cannot still be friends as long as you are clear with your boundary.  Happy friending with the exes!

Texting Etiquette

I have to get something off my chest today.  I love technology, however, this texting thing is getting out of hand.  I saw the above picture and I had to use it, it's very appropriate I thought "I miss your voice.  Call, don't text."  I figure I would propose a few useful texting etiquette.

Texting is use only in the following situations:
1. Quick check-in
2. When it's noisy
3. Howdy do
4. A few words

Texting is NOT appropriate in the following situations:
1. Asking someone out on a date
2. Writing a paragraph
3. Having a conversation
4. If your texts kept getting ignored after a few times

Anyway, I do believe that we are so spoil by technology that a lot of people do not even know how to carry a conversation and talk anymore.  You can say that I'm old school, yet I do have a happy and healthy balance life.  As with anything too much is not good.  Humans are social being, so pick up the phone and call someone if you want to talk to them.